Talking to our teens can really try our patience sometimes. But let's check what we say and how we say it to them. Remember your own teen years; it was not an easy time. I'm not saying "baby" them...just add extra helpings of understanding and respect!Promote good feelings instead of negative ones. For example:
Instead of saying, "What are you going to do with your life?" SAY "Here's a website I came across that features some of the best opportunities of 2012. Take a look at it this evening."
Instead of saying, :Don't stay up watching TV all night...you won't be able to get up in the morning! SAY, "For a change, try turning in early...a good night's sleep makes the next day's vision so clear!"
Instead of saying, "Your diet's lousy..must you drink so much soda? SAY "Brought a juicer today and a bunch of carrots. How does a carrot/banana shake sound?"
Instead of saying, "You leave the kitchen a mess after you make your sandwich, why can't you clean up after yourself?" SAY "So far, so good, no bugs! Clean up after yourself and I guarantee we'll never have to deal with pests. One less problem for us."
Instead of saying,"Does_______always have to hang around here? Doesn't he have a home?" SAY, "I would like to get to know_______ a little better. This weekend, let's plan an outing to the movies and dinner afterwards...my treat!
You get the idea. What other scenarios can you come up with? I look forward to seeing your positive comments. Put it into play...it will work.
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